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When
the "high times" dream comes crashing down,
it's foolish to ignore the signs. If your dream has
become a nightmare, then it's time to get serious
about change! I have elsewhere on this site already
covered "addiction" issues in the alcohol
and addiction
section, but I wanted to address specifically this
issue of recreational drug misuse since it is so
prevalent. If you have arrived at this page
because you have anxiety
or depression caused by using drugs then you may
wish to visit my sister site at www.anxietyspecialist.co.uk
So
why do you keep wanting to do drugs even though you
also want to give them up?
It's
Friday night. Eleven pm and your mate offers you some
coke or pills. You've had a few drinks. What do you
see before you? PLEASURE. Plain and simple. Pleasure. That's
the promise. The problem is, the part of your brain
that deals with all your "habitual"
responses (the limbic system) is in fact a very
primitive mind which tries to re-create the pleasures
of the past. So at the moment of choice you are
logically hardly involved in the decision IF you leave
it up to your limbic system to decide for you. Your
limbic system makes the choice for you based on
emotion rather than logic. The limbic system also opts
for "immediate gratification" over long term
goals given the opportunity. That means that if it
looks gratifying right now then "just say
yes" is the only answer the limbic system knows.
The Frontal Lobe (your more advanced thinking brain)
however can think longer term. The Frontal Lobe is key
to planning. Planning means looking ahead and being
able to stop giving in to immediate gratification in
favour of a longer term goal. In order to lose 10lbs I
need to say no to the passing pleasure of the cream
cake. The principle is the same whether we're talking
cake or coke! This is why there is conflict and being
in "two minds". It's your limbic system that
wants you to carry on using drugs. It's your frontal
lobe that reminds you that you have longer term
goals.....like having a life that doesn't involve
feeling like you're in another dimension for three
days after every weekend.
False
Positives (a Wolf in Sheep's clothing)
Your
limbic system is sending you a false positive based on
an expectation of your very best drug experiences.
Nudge, nudge....gamble. Your limbic system remembers
the best of all pleasures and tells you to go for it.
The problem is, it's not a true picture any more. Not
only does the body and brain develop a
"tolerance" to drugs, meaning that the more
you take the less effectively and pleasurably they
work, you also can recognise that YOU are different.
You have different needs and different aspirations
than you did when you started using. Perhaps you've
simply grown up and decided that you don't see
yourself as a drug user any more. Whatever. The limbic
system is accessing a way outdated file and the
information is now highly inaccurate. The promise of
pleasure is often misguided. What actually happens is
that the experience is mediocre but the anxiety,
depression, paranoia and discomfort that follows is
awful. We need to get your limbic system to recognise
this as a fact at the point of choice so that when you
think of using a drug, you remember clearly and
accurately what a real expectation of outcome looks
like. In possession of the facts registered
emotionally as well as logically you can easily decide
that "no thanks" is a better response.
How
do you stop using drugs?
Well,
first of all, the pre-requisite for the treatment of
all habitual or addictive patterns is that you have to
really want, or need, to stop. Both wanting and
needing to stop using drugs will provide us with the
necessary leverage to get the job done, but if you
want to stop that's even better. It's okay if there's
a little conflict. We expect that. If there wasn't you
wouldn't have a problem. You'd just stop. Some people
do exactly this without any therapeutic help. Our job
is to help resolve that conflict, but it helps
enormously if you've decided that you want to change
your life. As with all the treatments for addictive
behaviours, we need to take a look at the environment
in which the habit/behaviour thrives. For most people
that means ensuring that your needs generally are
being met. If using drugs is your only outlet or
hobby, then we'll explore alternative activities that
you can engage with to fill the gap. Likewise if there
is any self medication (meaning you're doing drugs to
numb the pain) going on, then we'd want to address
whatever discomfort is causing the need to
self-medicate. We recognise that environment
plays a massive role in drug use and it is necessary
to change the environment in which the drug use
thrives. This invariably involves courageous action.
If all your friends use drugs every weekend, you have
some hard choices to make. Either you find new drug
free friends to be with for a while or you find some
way of integrating with those people in a drug free
way. In some cases this is manageable. In others it is
not. There are certain circumstances where the only
sensible option is to leave the drug focused
environment completely. To stay in that environment is
like putting a parched man in a lake and telling him
he mustn't drink. How long will he last? This is a
choice only you can make but ultimately it may be a
choice you have to make if you want to change. Maybe
one or two of your friends will make the change with
you? Speak to them. They might be as desperate to
change as you are but too afraid to mention it or you
might even inspire them to start thinking about it.

How
can hypnotherapy help me to stop using drugs?
Essentially,
we'd meet. I'd find out a bit about your lifestyle and
circumstances and find out exactly what you see as a
solution. I will within reason work with you to help
you achieve your goals. That might be complete
abstinence or it may be that you have other wishes.
Providing your request is realistic I will gladly work
with you to achieve it. In most cases however,
abstinence is the best option, because no matter how
well intended you are, anything less just sends the
message to the unconscious mind that the behaviour is
still okay with you....which presumably, if you're
seeking help....it's not! We'd have you complete a
life audit and I would get you to take a small
workbook away with you to complete following the
consultation ready for our first session. The workbook
asks you some poignant questions about your
relationship to drugs and is designed to help you
truly clarify what you have to gain and lose by
changing your drug use behaviours. Our life audit
would tell us whether there are any seriously unmet
life needs. We'd need to work on ways to have those
needs met first and foremost. If you leave a big need
unmet and drugs are to hand guess what's going to fill
it? This is what would dictate the length of therapy.
If there are lots of unmet needs then we might need a
number of sessions to work through that. Otherwise we
get straight on with the business of changing the
pattern. We don't need things to be perfect, just
okay. So now we have all the information we need to
make change happen.
Here's
how it works. Hypnotherapy is all about hooking
desirable emotional and physical responses to
suggested cues. In actual fact, all of life works this
way. It's called "conditioning". You become
conditioned in life to respond to certain things in
certain ways and those responses are/become automatic.
Your unconscious mind (limbic system) provides those
responses. Anxiety works in the same way. If you have
a fear of spiders, then when you see a spider your
limbic system releases fear. With addictive processes
the same rationale is at work but instead of fear you
experience desire because the promise is one of
pleasure, not danger. It's the same part of the brain
that responds...the amygdala...a gland within the
limbic system.
Consider
what you know of hypnosis from the TV. Although there
is a lot you probably won't know about how those shows
are put together to make them sensational, the basic
premise that we can attach a "command" if
you like to a "cue" is pretty much how it
works. So, the hypnotist says "When I touch my
nose, you'll start feeling really wonderful and you
suddenly feel a strong need to tell everyone how great
you feel!" Now don't be alarmed by this. What
you are not told when you watch these shows is that it
only works because the participant WANTS it to work,
not because the hypnotist holds any special power. It
is a state of deep imaginative involvement which
allows the participant to become more suggestible.
These kinds of associations are occurring all the
time. In fact the hypnotic suggestion (no hypnosis is
required incidentally because it's already
"believed" by you before you take
it....that's why you keep taking it!) when your friend
offers you a line/a pill/a joint is "When
you take this "X" you'll feel
wonderful". What would happen if we were to
change that suggestion? In hypnotherapy we take you
into hypnosis and anchor everything you hate about
being involved with drugs to a single point which you
experience as a deep knowing that it's simply
something you no longer want to feel. We then use
suggestion to change the "command". Instead
of responding to the offer of drugs with the feeling
"This will make me feel wonderful", we
instead attach that deep knowing of what a
disappointing experience drugs are for you now, to
that offer. Of course it is tailored individually for
you but it goes something along the lines of
"Should
you ever be offered another drug you'll be immediately
reminded right down to the core of who you are that
you get much more when you say "no thanks".
You know without any doubt whatsoever that any desire
you might feel to say yes to drugs is a false positive
signal....an outdated file with incorrect information
which means nothing to you now....... You remember
absolutely how miserable you feel as a result of
taking drugs and because you know that taking drugs
creates misery you feel proud and pleased to say
"no thanks"......AND what's more...you
remember absolutely how great it feels to be in
control of your life when you say "no
thanks!"....knowing that when you wake up in the
morning you feel amazing because you have control and
you're choosing what you REALLY want...... health,
wellbeing, and control....and that feels great!"
This
and many other messages which are tailored
individually for you are embedded through the
hypnotherapeutic process in your subconscious mind so
that they become "automatic" associations.
That is, commands on cue. or in hypnotherapy language,
post-hypnotic suggestions, meaning suggestions that
become active at a certain "cue" point. In
this case, being offered drugs. In practice what
this means is that you simply will not respond in the
same way you used to. A flag has been placed at that
situation. You still have choice. Hypnosis cannot
remove choice, but your unconscious mind will jump to
attention because it recognises the situation and
reminds you to feel good about saying "No
thanks". Then it's easier to do the right thing
without feeling the conflict. In other words we have
the limbic system support you with positive feelings
and associations instead of fighting you by pulling
you in the opposite direction to the one you want to
go in. Then change is much easier. There is science at
work here. Through repetition; the use of hypnotic
positive visualisation, and the removal of any
psychological obstacles we have all we need to achieve
success. The process still requires your mindfulness,
some application between sessions, and a continued
willingness to change, but in essence that's how it
works. In practice, with time permitting, we
often introduce many other techniques and tools to
help you stay firmly in control, to tolerate any
discomfort (after all we need to be able to tolerate a
little discomfort to make a change like this) and to
stay focused on why it's important to you to make the
change. Remember, I don't tell you what you
"should" or "should not" do. I
simply help you to achieve what YOU want to. So you
won't be judged or told what to do. I will ask you
what you want to achieve and we work together to get
the job done.
Obviously
what's written here is therefore by no means
exhaustive. It's just the essence of it, but it gives
you a nice clear idea of the mechanics of hypnotherapy
as a powerful tool for busting addictive behaviours.
Does it work? Yes. It is simply capitalising and
intensifying the mental, emotional, and cognitive
systems that we naturally use to make changes. Do I
guarantee success? No. Why? Well firstly, it's in
every good hypnotherapy associations code of conduct
that cures should not be guaranteed, but perhaps more
importantly it's because you are the only one who can
do that. I'm clear that with application and the
desire to succeed, it can be done, but ultimately it's
a choice you make. I simply provide you with the tools
and the expertise to work through the change with your
subconscious mind on your side and a nice thorough
understanding of HOW to achieve the change. I can tell
you though, hand on heart, that I do enjoy a great
deal of success with people using this approach and
often we make relatively short work of it....3-5
sessions on average. If there is a lot of sorting out
to do generally (generalised anxiety/ unmet needs etc)
we may need more sessions. I provide a personalised
idea of treatment length expectation at the
consultation once I have an understanding of your
personal situation.
I do
offer a free initial consultation with a view to
beginning treatment, but do ask that you only book
this if you are serious about making a change.
Uncertainty is okay, but success is dependent on your
willingness to engage with the programme robustly.
This
programme is not suitable for severe hard drug
users/addicts. Heavy regular opiate (heroin), crack
cocaine, and methamphetamine use requires medical
intervention and you should approach your GP, the
Bristol Drugs Project or local social services for
help. This programme IS suitable for people who use
drugs recreationally and would like some help in
establishing control/abstinence.
If
you are serious about doing something about your drug
use, you can book
a consultation now with a view to beginning
treatment. If you have any other questions prior to
booking do feel free to contact
me.
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